How You Can Help a Dementia Caregiver
September 25, 2023 | Alzheimer's and Other Dementias, Caregiving
Dementia, a progressive cognitive decline, poses unique challenges not only for the individual affected, but also for their family caregivers. The journey of a caregiver for a loved one with dementia is often likened to an emotional roller-coaster, riddled with moments of despair, patience-testing situations, unexpected turns, and poignant memories. But just as no one should ride this roller-coaster alone, support from friends and extended family can provide significant relief to caregivers.
September is World Alzheimer’s Month, a great time to learn more about friends or loved ones who are either living with the disease or caring for someone who has it. If you have no experience with Alzheimer’s, it can help to understand some of the key challenges these individuals face. Here are a few of them, along with ways you can offer support.
Emotional and psychological stress
Challenge: As dementia progresses, the person may forget familiar faces, routines, and places. This loss can be heart-wrenching for caregivers, leading to feelings of grief, isolation, and depression.
How to help: Lend a listening ear. Sometimes, caregivers just need someone to talk to, a nonjudgmental space to vent and share. Regular check-ins, whether through a simple message, call, or visit, can provide emotional assurance. Additionally, you might consider helping them find support groups where they can connect with others in similar situations.
Physical fatigue
Challenge: Dementia can disrupt normal sleep patterns, making nights restless. That affects the caregiver as well. Coupled with the day-to-day care activities, caregivers often experience physical exhaustion.
How to help: Offer to spend time with the person with dementia, even if it’s just a few hours a week. This gesture can provide the caregiver with a break, allowing them to rest or attend to personal needs. Additionally, consider gifting or organizing caregiver aids like in-home care aides or respite care services.
Financial strain
Challenge: Medical bills, specialized care, and home modifications for safety can strain a family’s finances. In some cases, caregivers may also reduce their working hours or quit their jobs, cutting further into household income.
How to help: Understand the specific needs of the family and see if you can contribute directly, like sponsoring a session of physical therapy or gifting essential items. If you have expertise or know someone who does, you might even help the family explore financial aid or community resources for dementia care.
Managing behavioral changes
Challenge: People with dementia may exhibit mood swings, aggression, or paranoia. Such changes can be challenging and, at times, scary for caregivers to manage.
How to help: Equip yourself with knowledge about dementia. By understanding the condition and its effects, you can provide patient and empathetic assistance during visits. Offer to attend caregiver training sessions or workshops with the primary caregiver, reinforcing that they’re not alone in this journey.
Supporting a caregiver is as much about understanding as it is about action. The world of a caregiver can often become limited to the immediate needs of the person with dementia. By being present, informed, and proactive, you can make their world a little bigger, brighter, and less burdensome. Remember, in the fight against dementia, love, understanding, and collective strength are invaluable allies.
Windward Life Care’s home care aides and home health professionals work with dementia caregivers in many capacities. Please contact us to learn about how we can help.